Children with Divorced Parents
Ada Dilday
Ada Dilday
Many kids that comes from divorced parents,have one hope and dream: to grow up with their parents in the same household. Being just three and not knowing what it is like to have your parents in the same house was a normal thing and experience for me. As I got older, I realized not everyone was like me, in fact it isn't normal for parents to be divorced. Honestly, growing up with my parents being divorced had a huge impact on my life and a huge strain on my extracurricular activities. In America, there is one divorce approximately every 36 seconds. That's nearly 2,400 divorces per day, 16,800 divorces per week and 876,000 divorces a year.
Through middle school I really didn’t care about having divorced parents, the only time it bothered me was when I had an activity that both parents were suppose to show up to, other than that I really didn't care. As I got into high school I got used to it, but it started to affect me more. I mostly focused on school, cheer, my siblings, and myself. At my cheer competitions, it was hard to make sure both parents were there. There was always that one parent that didn't show up or the other one gave the “wrong” information on “accident”. The times it hit me the most is when we had banquets or awards and everyone would get introduced as well with their parents and I'd be missing one or they refused to walk together.
The part that sucks the most is when parents turn you against the other parent. I lived with my mother for 15 years and she was always out to get my dad and make my dad the bad guy. I wanted to be her favorite and have her on my side, so I would take her side and turn on my dad and treat him unfairly. Kids are supposed to love and treat their parents equal, but being in a divorced house that never is the case. You just have to realize both are trying to raise you and give you the best life they can while they are separate and trying to make the best lives for themselves as well.
Through middle school I really didn’t care about having divorced parents, the only time it bothered me was when I had an activity that both parents were suppose to show up to, other than that I really didn't care. As I got into high school I got used to it, but it started to affect me more. I mostly focused on school, cheer, my siblings, and myself. At my cheer competitions, it was hard to make sure both parents were there. There was always that one parent that didn't show up or the other one gave the “wrong” information on “accident”. The times it hit me the most is when we had banquets or awards and everyone would get introduced as well with their parents and I'd be missing one or they refused to walk together.
The part that sucks the most is when parents turn you against the other parent. I lived with my mother for 15 years and she was always out to get my dad and make my dad the bad guy. I wanted to be her favorite and have her on my side, so I would take her side and turn on my dad and treat him unfairly. Kids are supposed to love and treat their parents equal, but being in a divorced house that never is the case. You just have to realize both are trying to raise you and give you the best life they can while they are separate and trying to make the best lives for themselves as well.